One of my favorite books is Leadership and Self-Deception, put out by the Arbinger Institute. I have always love self-improvement and goal making, but I didn't do very much reading of self-improvement books until about 2 years ago. I read Leadership and Self- Deception, and this book pushed me into a healthy obsession with leadership books.
While reading it I learned ways I had betrayed myself, and justified certain patterns of behavior. Such as yelling at my kids, or getting reacting a certain way when I expected my husband help with a task. In my faith, we believe agency is the biggest reason we are placed here in this world. We are here to make good choices, and prove to our Father in Heaven, and ourselves, that we are worthy of Eternal Salvation. The oppositions plan is to limit our ability to use that agency wisely by placing obstacles in our way. Obvious examples are drugs and other addictive behaviors. Sneaky examples are our attitudes toward people, and dishonesty with ourselves and others. When we are dishonest and justify that dishonesty we limit the ability of others to make a good choice because they don't have a full view of the situation.
When I got online this morning to write this post, I found this fantastic explanation of the book, far better than anything I could write on the subject. I highly recommend this book as well as it's companion book The Anatomy of Peace.
Mother, Oiler, healthnut-ish, teacher, coach, wife, lover of life and all of it's simple gifts.